In a recent issue of Scholastic Instructor writer Suzanne Tingly describes 8 Great Teacher Habits Parents Love. Her advise is for teachers and how they can prevent difficulties with parents during the school year, and she makes some great points:
1. Give parents as many specifics as you can.
2. Write positive or encouraging comments.
3. Provide timely updates and information.
4. Invite parents to lend a hand in your classroom.
5. Give parents plenty of lead time.
6. Send home good news.
7. Go beyond the regular curriculum.
8. Have clear rules and consequences.
My guess is that every teacher has learned the hard way that these eight guidelines can save a lot of heartache. The fact is, while the teacher is working hard at school (and at home) to prepare and teach the best lessons possible, parents are at the same time working hard to provide the best they can for their kids. This often leaves it up to the kids to provide the communication between school and home.
I wonder if the lines of communication ever get crossed? You bet they do.
With the new school year quickly creeping up, it's a good time to think about how parents can maximize the effort of both teachers and students. So, not only do teachers need to have good habits, parents do too.
8 Great Parent Habits That Teacher LOVE
1. Make a point of listening to both sides of every situation.
Nobody would ever accuse a child of lying, but that doesn't mean the whole truth is getting home. Through no fault of the child, he or she is seeing the situation, whatever it is, from their own perspective and may not understand all the details. Whether it is the reason for a detention or low grades on homework, listening to the teacher first-hand can clarifying a lot of misunderstanding.
2. Read the syllabus, class expectation or grade level expectations and understand time lines.
There are differing of opinions on homework but it is never the case that students did "Nothing" during the school day. Enough cannot be said for helping even the youngest students be organized and keep track of their work. By knowing what teachers and students are up to parents can stay on top of class requirements, project due dates and test dates. This is also a great way to catch any learning issues early. Internet based grade-books and teacher web-sites make this easy.
3. Ask teachers for rubrics and grading criteria.
Teacher don't give failing grades because they dislike students. Teachers develop grading and achievement guidelines and rubrics based on grade level expectations and state standards. It's important for parents to know what is expected from students and what the child should be able to accomplish based on the child's grade level or age. Obviously not every student is at the same place developmentally, but comparing your child's work to rubrics and standards will give you an idea of what he or she needs to work on.
4. Take advantage of any opportunity to go to school and meet teachers.
Most schools have an "Open House" or "Orientation" at the beginning of the year and parent-teacher conferences at other times. Don't let these be the only times you go and make an appearance. Make a point of visiting regularly (schedule your appointments first) and getting the know teachers (and principals) personally. Many parents never miss a sporting event but find it hard to make it to school for academics updates. Teachers love meeting with parents and can provide specific insight into learning styles, needs and social dynamics that parents may not be aware of.
5. Trust teachers' professionalism.
Teaching is an art and a craft. Those who take on this profession not only understand their subject area but are also experts in how kids learn. Trust their judgment because teachers don't take the responsibility given to them lightly.
6. Keep track of your child's homework.
Making it a habit of requiring that you look at all homework, review the expectations and even initial the homework helps your student stay on track and means there won't be any surprises. Have students complete homework in a common room where you can monitor and help. Discuss the work and have the kids teach you (this is high-level thinking).
Take everything out of the book bag every day. You might be surprised at what is hiding in there. (I won't tell you what I saw climbing out of a student's book bag during class one day.)
6. Don't do homework or projects for your children.
Sometimes parents don't know the line between helping and doing. Teachers can always tell and this really isn't fair - to your child. Getting the grade is not the point. Learning is the point. Like everything else is life - the learning is in the process.
7. Speak positively about school and teachers.
We realize early on that children learn by observing.
"I don't know where my child learned to use such language!"
Yes you do.
Kids will not only pick up your words, tone and mannerisms, they will learn your attitudes too. Speak about school and teachers with respect, humor, and admiration.
8. READ WITH YOUR CHILDREN!
This should be the number one things parents do with kids from infancy. It is bonding time and creates good, life-long readers. Notice I didn't write "Read TO your children." Reading TO kids is important for fluency. But I like the idea of reading WITH your kids. Have conversations about books and stories. Quiz each other. Take turns reading aloud. Make a game of reading and let them see you reading for information and for pleasure.